Do You Really Want Back Together? - This is big question. Do you really want back together or do you just think you do? When a breakup is fresh it easy to feel like you must have them back but then the second try, the same problem come up. Some relationships are just not health so you need to determine if you really want go back to them. If you still angry or hurt you need to be able to let that go. If you try to get her back but you want to hold their mistakes over their head constantly, that is not going to work. That is counterproductive. If you think that you can move on from the bad times to start over then trying again is a good idea. Only you know how badly you were hurt and if you can move past it or not.A second chance means that you need to forgive. Forgiveness is not always easy when you have been hurt but if you really want back together, you must forgive them for what they have done. That does not mean that you have to tolerate them doing it again.