Love Formula: Love Calculator to quantify relationships’ importance and strength

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Love can be represented as: Love = (Aw * Ag) + (Mw * Mg) + (A1w * A1g) + (Rw * Rg) + (Ew * Eg) + (...). By coincidence, the initials of those variables form the word AmAre, which in Italian language means "to love". The site http://www.amareway.org/ offers tool to easily calculate and compare the AmAre Way Index, online and offline.

Seattle, USA, August 6, 2010 — Love can be represented as: Love = (Aw * Ag) + (Mw * Mg) + (A1w * A1g) + (Rw * Rg) + (Ew * Eg) + (…). By coincidence, the initials of those variables form the word AmAre, which in Italian language means “to love”. The site http://www.amareway.org/ offers tool to easily calculate and compare the AmAre Way Index, online and offline.

These are the pillars of a successful relationship:

A: Aware (being) of each other and couple’s feelings, thoughts, needs and wants

M: Meditating together, or at least sharing thoughts

A1:Active (being) together, do things together

R: Respectful (being) of each other and couple’s feelings, thoughts, needs and wants

E: Eating properly and support each other healthy lifestyle, and also feed the relationship with positive feelings and thoughts

(…): if there are additional aspects considered too important to be included in the rest of the formula, they can be weighted and graded here

For each pillar, two aspects are quantified by respondents:

w: weight, importance given to each aspect (sum of all weights should be 100)

g: grade, rating given to each aspect (each grade is a value between 0 and 1)

As mentioned on http://www.amareway.org/love-formula-formula-for-love/ this formula can be used in many ways, including to quantify the importance of a relationship, how satisfying it is and its strength. Importance is all about what people feel they put into a relationship; so, a respondent should insert the weight of each of the five or more aspects of a successful relationship, and also how much he/she is doing for each of these aspects. How satisfying a relationship is determined by how people perceive what the partner puts in the relationship; so, a respondent should insert the weight of each of the five or more aspects of a successful relationship, and also how much he/she perceives the partner is doing for each of these aspects. The strength of a relationship can be quantified with the sum of importance and satisfaction for each partner.

A spreadsheet is offered on http://www.amareway.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/Love-formula-love-calculator.xls to easily calculate the AmAre Way Love Index. Partners can then share their own results at the same time, and discuss them. Additional interesting applications include comparing what people perceive as their partner’s satisfaction level is (using w: estimated weight, estimated importance given by partner to each aspect; g: estimated grade, estimated rating given by partner to each aspect) with how happy their partner really is.

This formula is meant to be descriptive and preventive, but not predictive. That is, it gives an idea of how the situation is now, and the strengths and weaknesses a couple should be aware of and act upon. Regardless of what the number says, a couple is always responsible, here and now, for the success of the relationship, so a high result still means a couple should keep going with the great affinity, and a lower result means there are aspects to act upon to improve the relationship. The author of this formula is also working on the formula of happiness which, in its more advanced form, will allow to predict different degrees of likelihood for an event, action, etc. to succeed in a specific context.

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